My boyfriend and I are going to be awesome parents. Like hey kid, you want to wear that darth vader mask with a crown and heels? Be careful not to trip!! You wanna play dress up with mom and then go to the shooting range? Sounds like fun!
If my kid wants to get their ears pierced or get their hair cut really short or grow their hair out long or pick out their own clothes that’s cool.
I’m all about giving kids a reasonable amount of autonomy (ie, not breaking laws, feelings, or school/house rules but anything else goes). They will be disciplined but also be able to make choices for themselves. They will understand that some choices have consequences they aren’t going to like. They will experience the world and mature into conscientious young souls. That is my wish for my future children.